stop messing with my gaydar
Between Mark Foley, Ted Haggard and Neil Patrick Harris, my aging gaydar is getting messed up badly. While I had a thing from the beginning for Doogie Howser and wanted to shag him rotten as he grew older—it’s my weakness for “dorky cute”--the appearance of homophobes-come-homos on the spectrum of sexuality has me confused. It was bad enough already that flagrantly heterosexual men at the gym take many times more mirror time than me with their moisturizers, concealers, and hair product! Now, I can’t take the hateful words spewing from one’s mouth as proof certain that I can’t have you!
I’ve thought about Gay men going back to legendary system of putting a gerbil up the butt of each man we bring into our ranks, but that’s so two generations ago! Instead, let me propose that we take Foley and Haggard as archetypal and act accordingly. If you’re man who champions anti-Gay causes, we’ll automatically assume you are Gay and treat you accordingly – no questions asked! There’s plenty of drag names to go around – Georgina Bushwhacker and Karlotta Rovinskya, for starters – and lots of good campy fun to be had – “Hey, Ms. Allen! You wanna sucka mecaca tonight?”
Time to clean House and Senate
The Mark Foley scandal needs to be understood for all that it represents, which is more than a pedophile closet-case Gay man. There is a clear abuse of power by the leadership of the House--and likely the Senate, too--to keep the matter under wraps until after the November elections. For that reason, every House Republican leader should be driven for office--they advertise their commitment to child safety in campaign ads, but they allow children to be abused on Capitol Hill.
On the Senate side, there's the added disgrace of George Allen. As is often said, where there's smoke.... and, George, it's starting to look like a forest fire! Those of us who have studied North African cultures knew what you were saying when you used the now-infamous M-word; and the revelation of your mom's Tunisian...oh, no, wait! Jewish roots--but it's the Tunisian bit that's important--make the M-word all the more insidious. You knew damned well what Mom meant when she used it, and you knew damned well what you were trying to slip under the radar when confronting Mr. Siddharth. Shame, George! Your ads call your opponent "former fiction writer," though it seems you're weaving bigger tales in the present!
my 9-11
Next Monday much of America will be wrapped up in the fifth anniversary of 9-11. All fine and well, I remember that day too well myself. The date for me, however, will mark a more important milestone -- 8000 days. Eight thousand days as a survivor of rape and relationship abuse, two things we don't talk about in the GLBT community It's been a long 22 years between the unsure kid who was preyed upon by a druggie asshole and the man I am now, but some days I can go right back to that day and that hour with frightening clarity.
Hey, Shrub! That middle finger was mine, asshole!
How appropriate. Capital Pride was getting under way, and I was 'guarding' the front of the stage -- ya know, some drunk fag is gonna leap on-stage and perform a forced makeover -- when Marine One appears in the sky, hauling home our loathsome chimp-in-chief and his entourage. Fuck you, Shrub! We're your fellow Americans, and you should be ashamed for demonizing us for your political gain.
PRIDE, and a special boy
WOW! Tomorrow will be my 22nd Pride Day as an out Gay man. While some other long-time Queer folks I know claim to be over Pride Day, I want to be happy and visible for all of those who are enjoying being out very recently or simply not so jaded. I'll be there doing security when the festival opens.
Last weekend I added a very special boy, a transplant from SFO, to my life with my partner. Robert and I had had a good correspondence online for a few months before his move here for school in the fall, but he hadn't yet clicked with my partner. Last weekend changed all of that! The boy is nestled between us on the couch for the weekend -- he lives in DC.
Dine out for Life with me Thurs 3/9
Join me at [insert your restaurant here] for DC's largest dinner party of the year! Food & Friends' 10th Annual Dining Out for Life is Next Week, so mark your calendars and make your reservations today for Thursday, March 9th! I'll be hosting the dinner crowd at Stars & Stripes, in Crystal City, Arlington, VA.
There are 152 restaurants located in DC, Maryland and Virginia, participating in this year's event. Each restaurant has agreed to donate 25-100% of their day's sales to Food & Friends.
Six days a week, Food & Friends delivers specialized, freshly-prepared meals and groceries to over 1,000 men, women and children living with HIV/AIDS, cancer and other life-challenging illnesses throughout Washington, DC and 14 counties in Maryland and Virginia.
For a complete list of restaurants participating in Dining Out for Life, or about ways in which you can get involved, please visit www.foodandfriends.org .
Tell Congress to reauth the Violence Against Women Act
On December 17th, the current version of the Violence Against Women Act (VAWA) is set to expire, reducing services, removing funding stability, and potentially eliminating existing and future programs that benefit thousands of women, children, and families across the country. It is critical that the U.S. Congress adds passing VAWA to their December legislative agenda and gets it passed before services are reduced and programs are eliminated.
Both the Senate and the House of Representatives have passed different versions of this vital legislation. Yet, though the December 17th deadline is rapidly approaching, congressional leaders have not scheduled a "conference committee" to resolve the differences between the bills to create one final bill to send to President Bush for his signature.
It's time for Congressional leaders to pass VAWA 2005 now. The National Organization for Women is circulating a petition this week urging the Republican and Democratic leaders in both the Senate and the House to expedite this process and reauthorize VAWA.
Please join together with thousands of others in supporting this vital legislation and encouraging congressional leaders to create a final bill to send to the president before the current version of the VAWA expires on December 17th, 2005.
For more information and to sign the VAWA petition, please visit: http://www.now.org/issues/violence/11-28-05vawaupdate.html
